As you may have noticed above, Spectrum Daiquiri Bar in Brisbane has a couple of drinks on its menu that are clearly offensive, particularly to women. Calling a drink a ‘slut’ because it ‘goes down well’, or a ‘winey [sic] bitch’ because it ‘shuts her up’ in the company of the combination of men and alcohol is a big deal and we’ll come to that later. Spectrum clearly made a social media error by asking people for feedback for 2013 planning as literally hundreds of men and women turned up to their Facebook page telling them that such drink names were offensive. But what’s possibly more disturbing than the names of the drinks is the reaction of Spectrum management and a select bunch of anti-‘feminazi’ barflies. The very fact that the bar asked for feedback and proceeded to delete tens of rational and respectful comments and requests while leaving plenty of insulting comments from their lowlife regulars also speaks volumes.
Leonard Walker thinks that those who speak up against pejorative, gender-specific derogatory slurs are automatically ‘…screeching unwashed armpiitted [sic] ones.” He sees those who find such slurs as offensive as “…faux intellectuals…” who are not only screeching but also crying and whining. Misogyny much? In his pithy paragraph he highlights exactly how he views women who speak out against degradation and also shows that he is completely unable to identify degradation when it’s happening right in front of him. It should be noted that one of the four people who ‘liked’ Leonard’s comments was the bar manager.
John Thompson is under the misguided impression that making a comment on a Facebook page is a completely time consuming activity for people who believe in opposing sexism. The assumption that anti-bigots have ‘targets of the day’ is actually somewhat of a faux pas because it suggests that there are proponents of sexism to be found everywhere, and each day there is someone new dishing out the misogynistic cocktail. I wonder if that was his intent.
Josh L M Brewer makes the mistake of believing that the only people who could possibly find offence with these publicity-in-a-glass stunt-drinks are ’40 something feminists’. He also makes the mistake that the same people are primarily and only occupied with getting ‘knickers in a knot’ over cocktail names and nothing else.
Greg made a total of eight (8) spelling and grammar errors in one sentence. Enough said about this oxygen thief.
There are more highlights from the Facebook thread attached below. What we are seeing at play here is this ‘new concept’ of ‘rape culture’. If you look at any media source today, with your eyes open, you may begin to notice that women are portrayed in a completely different way to men. Women make up only 24% of news subjects (the people in the news), and appear in newspapers and magazines in far more common states of undress. Women rarely save the day in movies and television and when they are playing the heroic protagonist, they are nothing short of a fighting fuck toy (Lara Croft, Invisible Girl [Fantastic Four], Catwoman etc.). Women appear in advertising as either sexual playthings or household props and when only 2.4% of CEOs and management positions are filled by women in a country like Australia, you can start to see why people start to get their backs up when remarks like ‘whiney bitch’ and ‘slut’ are considered ‘tongue in cheek’ and part of the common vernacular.
So why does any of this matter? Why should we give two craps if some shitty dive in Brisvegas has a couple of offensive drink titles on its largely uninspiring and unoriginal cocktail menu?
1. The words ‘bitch’ and ‘slut’ are as offensive to women as the words ‘nigger’, ‘chink’, ‘dune coon’ and ‘kike’. They represent oppression, denigration and slander. When such words become commonly accepted, the negative connotations stick. Black African Americans are in the process of ‘taking back’ the word ‘nigger’ in attempts to reverse the negativity in the same way that Italians, Greeks and people from the Mediterranean are trying to nullify the effects of the word ‘wog’. It could be argued that some women are attempting to do the same with the word ‘bitch’ by proclaiming a pride in being outspoken and the organisers of the Slutwalk (a mass protest where women dressed scantily in response to police suggesting that they were less likely to be raped if they covered up) were also trying to spin a positive angle to the word ‘slut’. But naming a drink ‘bitch’ (and adding that it will shut up her ‘whining’) and ‘slut’ (because the alcohol will make her go down on you) is completely inappropriate.
2. The definition of the word ‘slut’ is basically a slovenly or promiscuous woman. If you applied that definition to a man, society would brand him a cheeky playboy and in some men’s circles a hero. But apparently it’s wrong for a female to enjoy sex or to seek multiple partners. The problem with this is that choosing one’s partners grants you power and that goes against what society deems to be appropriate for women. If a woman is ever referred to as a slut, you can rest assured that 9 times out of 10 it’s being used against her in a pejorative sense.
3. Men who are outspoken are brave and inspirational. They are confident and passionate. Women who speak up are whiney, shrieking, screeching banshees. Men who speak their mind wear their hearts on their sleeves but women who speak their mind are seen as bitches. Again, if you’re ever called a bitch, you can assume you’re not being complimented.
4. Alcohol plays a significant role in the rape scene. In various studies it has been shown that between 20-25% of rape perpetrators and rape victims have been found to be heavily intoxicated, and another between 20-25% of rape perpetrators and victims as mildly under the influence of alcohol. Let’s be clear about this: a woman under the influence of alcohol cannot consent to sex. Of course, many drunk people have sex but that doesn’t suggest that a person is able to make clear, conscious decisions about intercourse – it just means drunk sex is just a fact of life and something that will always happen. Laughing at the bar about getting someone drunk enough to root is entirely unacceptable.
Here’s a few of our previously featured rape supporters: